The Way We Fight

Stop repeating the same painful patterns.

Learn how to turn conflict into deeper connection—without losing yourself or each other in the process.

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Conflict doesn’t mean something is broken.

It means you’re alive, human, and in relationship with others. The difference between couples who thrive and couples who struggle isn’t whether they fight, it’s how they navigate it.

The Way We Fight is a 7-part curriculum that gives you the embodied tools, communication practices, and nervous system wisdom you need to handle conflict with care, and to transform it into deeper intimacy, trust, and connection. It blends together nervous system science, somatic practice, and practical communication tools into a self-paced course that you can use to transform your relationships.

Who It’s For

Individuals who want to bring these skills into their relationships.

Couples ready to stop spiraling in the same old fights and patterns.

Therapists and coaches seeking embodied practices to share with clients.

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Ready to relate with more safety, honesty, and care? The Way We Fight will guide you.

The Way We Fight Course

What’s Included

  • Seven video-based modules grounded in nervous system education, attachment, and embodied relating ($777 in value)

  • A 91-page workbook with somatic practices, reflection prompts, and integration exercises ($333 in value)

  • Guided tools for regulation, communication, and repair that can be used individually or with a partner ($333 in value)

  • Clear frameworks for navigating hard conversations without losing yourself or the relationship ($444 in value)

  • Practices designed to live in the body, not just the mind

  • Lifetime access

$1887 in value, available to you for $197.

If finances are a barrier, Pay From The Heart allows you to access the course for what you’re able to contribute.

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  • "I cannot recommend Megan at Sovereign Self enough. Every session feels safe, constructive, and tailored to our needs. Megan helped push us in all the right places and helped hold us accountable - which was really important to us in finding a therapist.

    — A

  • "Megan‘s courage as a social rebel when the culture just isn’t working is gift to this world. I’m in awe of the ways that she is helping relationships and couples break through limiting beliefs of what it means to be in relationship and what it means to be a sovereign individual all at the same time."

    — C

  • "The work we have done together has revolutionized the way I am relating to myself and to others, especially in romantic relationships. If you are looking for a top notch therapist who is extremely well versed and passionate about what she does, I highly recommend working with Megan and experiencing the deep transformation of your life."

    — K

What You’ll Learn

  • 1

    Nervous System Psychoeducation

    Understand ventral vagal, sympathetic, and dorsal states (including fawn), the Window of Tolerance, and how your state changes what you hear and how you respond.

  • Regulation: Returning to Safety

    State‑specific tools for self‑regulation and co‑regulation (breath, orienting, movement, temperature, pacing). Learn when to down‑shift, when to gently mobilize, and how to come back into choice.

  • Relational Attunement

    Attune to self, other, and the shared relational “we” field. Learn to track subtle cues (tone, posture, breath), and move at the pace of connection, while staying grounded in your body.

  • Communication That Connects

    Master the art of speaking from vulnerability without losing your ground. Learn to express needs, boundaries, and feelings in ways that invite closeness rather than defensiveness, while staying curious about your partner's experience.

  • Structuring Conflict

    A step‑by‑step process to support you in structuring challenging conversations- just like we do in couples therapy!

  • Embodied Repair

    Go beyond apology. Reconnect through presence, action, and follow‑through. Somatic rituals (eye contact, breath, touch with consent, movement) that rebuild trust over time.

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Headshot of Megan Phippen M.A. LPCC

Clinically-trained somatic sex & relationship therapist (M.A. LPCC). Shadow alchemist. And an unyielding source of support on your path to more relationship vitality.

As a clinician, I empower individuals and couples who are hungry for more from their intimate relationships and willing to go through the fire to get there. All from a somatic, trauma-informed, queer-affirming, and sex-positive perspective.

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